Lie on My Online Dating Profile?
This morning I saw a new online profile of a man who is separated and, therefore, legally still married. He chose to say he was single on his profile. His little white lie could be a big deal for a lot of women who want a man who is truly available, not who still has a wife!
I imagine he thought that since they split up two years ago he “feels” single so that’s more relevant than telling the truth. I disagree. Since relationships are based on honesty and trust, why would you advertise yourself as being single when you aren’t? Similarly, why would you say that you’re a non-smoker when you are? (but only when you bum them from friends – you don’t buy them!). Why would you post a photo of when you were 20 years younger (“well, I “feel” 2o years younger!) and why would you lie about your occupation: that you are a businessman when, actually, you are on welfare?
I know that we are in the business of marketing ourselves when we create an online profile. However, you WILL be found out and do you really want to present yourself to the world from a place of dishonesty? I suggest that you don’t. If you’re separated, get that divorce so you really are ready to date. If you’re a smoker and you think that being honest about that will decrease the number of people that are interested in you, you are probably right, but maybe you’ll find a fellow smoker and you’ll be a match! Have the courage to post a current photo. Yes, ladies, we know that men are visual and you may not appeal to everyone, but your beloved will be attracted to you for who you are. And if your financial affairs aren’t in order, do what you can to be more stable before you consider yourself to be available for dating and a relationship! If you’re retired and on a limited income, fine, but don’t pretend that you have lots of disposable income for exotic travel and expensive gifts.
Is it OK to lie on your online profile? You might say yes because “everyone else does”. I invite you to live from a place of integrity and to be willing to be honest right from the beginning. This is the only foundation from which a lasting, healthy relationship can be built.