I was speaking to one of the participants in a recent workshop. He told he that he’s not going to get married again (3rd time) because he doesn’t want to be yet another divorce statistic. He thought the answer was not to get married. Well, that’s one strategy… but another far healthier one, in my opinion, is to do the work needed to be able to co-create a lasting relationship!
What are the biggest issues I see with singles? For women, lack of self-esteem is a big one. Another is not really knowing themselves. Many have been married for a decade or more and have focused all their energy on their husband’s or their kids’ needs. Who are they, themselves?
The biggest issue with single men is a lack of confidence in knowing how to ask for a date and how to carry on a conversation. I see some low self-esteem issues but they seem more challenged by the mechanics of dating itself. How can you tell if a woman is interested in you? How can you ask her out without seeming creepy?
The great thing about working with a relationship expert is that you will have these issues, and more, addressed so you actually CAN have a healthy relationship. I have a Relationship Readiness Quiz for singles with ten questions to assess your readiness today for dating. For example, you might be very happy with your career, but do you actually have the time to put into dating? If your career is all-consuming you won’t have the time or the energy to put into meeting people and getting to know them. I think it’s easy to fool ourselves into thinking we are ready to date when we aren’t. If you’d like to take the test, send me an email and I’ll send one to you. I’d be happy to do a follow-up phone call to discuss your results.
In summary, you can bypass being another divorce statistic – not by avoiding marriage but by becoming more conscious in your dating! This is what I can help you with, so please reach out and contact me!