One of the catalysts for doing personal growth work is the ending of a marriage or a long-term relationship. This is a wonderful time to find out who you are and what you want. It may be a time that you want to do some exploring and to date many people without any commitment.
Many men are at this stage. They may have been in long relationships and want to experience dating different women and putting the focus on themselves. This is a healthy and valuable stage of moving on. However, if you are looking for a man to commit to a long-term relationship with you these men are not a good option!
If you’re looking for a future partner be aware of the stage he’s at. Is he in the exploration stage? Is he dating for fun and recreation? If so, he may not be someone you’ll want to invest a lot of time in if you’re looking someone to spend the rest of your life with.
I hear over and over again from women that a man is clear at the beginning that he isn’t ready for a relationship but they ignore what he says. They invest time and energy hoping that it will turn into a commitment and then are deeply disappointed when reality hits.
If you are at different stages in life he will likely not be available for you in the way you want.
How can you prevent this heartache? How can you avoid putting your heart and soul into a relationship with a good man who isn’t available?
Pay attention to what he says! If he says right from the beginning that he isn’t ready for a relationship don’t think you’ll change his mind! Find men who are at the same stage of life as you are. Find the ones who have dated lots of women and are clear that they are ready for a long-term commitment. They are out there!