One of my all-time favorite books is The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. In this book he talks about the ways people give and receive love – and how this awareness can deepen loving relationships. I was thinking this morning about “words of affirmation” which he describes as “unsolicited compliments” as well as hearing the words “I love you.” For me, unsolicited compliments have never been very meaningful, but if someone I loved expressed in words the positive difference I make in their life… well, then, those would be loving words for me. So it’s not so much about feedback on how I look in a certain outfit, it’s about the contribution I am making. This is on a whole different level, as far as I’m concerned.
What would you like to hear from your loved ones? What words of affirmation would be meaningful to you? I welcome your comments!