I meet many singles who just want to get out there and date and forget the importance of being prepared before dat. “How do I meet people for dating?” is their primary question. What I’d like to see as being the primary question is “What do I need to do to be prepared to date?”
I came up with an analogy recently. What if you and someone you had just met decided that you wanted to start a garden together. Each of you had done a little gardening in the past but with mixed results. You figure there’s nothing to it: just put some seeds in the soil and in time you have a nice garden!
You may discover that your seeds don’t actually thrive. You needed to prepare the soil first, but you didn’t know that. You’ve planted sun-loving crops in shady areas. You didn’t know that. You just assumed that the other person would take responsibility for watering… but you didn’t discuss it. Your plants aren’t doing so well. And it turns out that your partner can’t stand zucchini but you planted lots of it because everyone else does.
This is what I see in a lot of relationships these days. People dive right in figuring that no preparation is required and if their partner is “the One” then it should all be easy. Many people want the crops without the work, and it doesn’t work that way (unless you buy your produce at the store and I haven’t figured out how that works with long-term relationships!)
The divorce rates are sobering and the percentages of marriages that end in divorce gets higher with second and third marriages. People who don’t get prepared by being clear on who they are and what they want, who don’t recognize their patterns, who don’t learn how to communicate effectively and how to resolve conflict… they don’t have much hope for a healthy, lasting, loving relationship, in my opinion.
What can you do to increase your chances of lasting love? Do the inner work! Get the help you need!
I offer programs that help you to discover who you are and to get ready for dating… before you ask “How can I meet people for dating?” I want you to be successful, and I can help you.
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